Before You get Married!
Ever thought, why is it that one’s life gets totally changed after they get married? This is because all of your decisions get affected by this one big decision. Although your career and work life also have a major role to play in your life choices. However, in most of the cases, it’s the marriage which has a heavier impact on the all over life.
It can completely reverse your personality or make you someone who you were not in both a positive and a negative way. It is a blessing for many but condemnation for some. Most of us have a bucket list and unfortunately, we think that we will do it with our partner when we get married. If you are lucky, you might get to do those with your partner but if not, it stays as a regret for whole of the lifetime.
So, before you get married, don’t just do it because it is the right age, or because you have found a partner which matches your career prospects, or because your family loves them, or because you just have to get married otherwise it will be too late to make the decision. Get married, when you are ready!!!!
However, the harsh truth is that we are never ready but at least this decision is something which should not be made in haste and waste. Think of all the prospects of you and your partner as well. It might be the situation that everything is suitable for you, but the compromising side is going more towards your partner which might ultimately lead to frustration at the other end causing strain in the relationship.
What is it that will work out for you and your partner? How much are you ready to adjust or bend or compromise? Often, people think that if something they are not liking about their partner, after marriage they will be able to mold them. However, they forget that it is very difficult to change the basic nature of a human being and if you are married to a narcissist, pitifully you will be the person who is going to suffer for the rest of your life. You will be stressed, anxious, depressed and will fall into serious mental health issues with time.
Most of the time, we check on all the aspects before one gets married except for the most important part, i.e., mental match. Initially, when we meet someone, we tend to put our brighter sides in front of the other person but slowly with time, the real issues come out. In some people, they come out soon but in others you might experience them after a long time and then you start to feel that you don’t know this person at all.
It’s rightly said to know some people, few moments are enough and to know other people, even a lifetime is less. So, if you can see a red flag, do not expect to turn it to automatically to green after marriage as it might turn to burning red hot completely opposite to your expectations.
Also, you might think that what is the big deal. If we won’t be able to adjust, we will find someone else. True, but it is important to realize that you will never be the same and if you have children, you might get in the most difficult situation to even take the decision because you will have to think for them before thinking of yourself.
So, to avoid falling into the wrong trap, try to give time to decide, make sure to complete all your bucket list not leaving it to be completed after you get married. Don’t let anything to be left to regret. You are going to choose a life partner not an ice-cream. Choose wisely!
